Strap-Ons

A strap-on is a dildo worn in a harness around the hips, so the wearer can penetrate a partner hands-free. Strap-ons are used for pegging, by lesbian and queer couples, and by anyone who wants to swap roles. They come as complete kits or as a separate harness and dildo.

Harness or strapless?

A harness strap-on holds the dildo against the body with waist and leg straps. It is stable, adjustable and the easier choice for beginners. A strapless strap-on has a shorter bulb that the wearer holds internally instead of straps, so both partners feel each movement; it needs strong pelvic floor muscles and some practice.

What to compare

• Dildo length and diameter: a slim 12 to 15 cm dildo is a sensible start
• How the harness adjusts and what waist range it covers
• Whether the dildo can be changed for another size
• Vibration, and how it is controlled
• The material, as stated on each listing

Using a strap-on comfortably

Tighten the harness until the dildo does not wobble. Use plenty of water-based lubricant, start slowly and let the receiving partner set the pace and depth. For anal play, go gradually and stop if there is pain. Wash the dildo before and after every use, and use a condom over it if it is shared.